"Learning is acquired by reading books, but the much more necessary learning, the knowledge of the world, is only to be acquired by reading human, and studying all the various editions of them"-Lord chesterfield, "Letters to his Son".

Within the last few years a new and exciting science has been disclosed and explored. It is called body language. Both its written form and the scientific study of it have been called as Kinesics. It is quite a very vast area under research now. Let us see a brief not on it.

Body language is an important component of human communication, in fact, according to psychologists 55% of the impact we make on someone is from non-verbal language, with 38% attributed to the way we say it and a mere 7% to the words we actually use. So we determine the way we are perceived.

Hands/arms and Eyes are used by most of us to communicate our thoughts effectively. We need to think about whether our body language matches the words we are saying. Watching people, what they wear, how they stand and how they move can all indicate much more about a person than what they say. Here are some body language observations.

Openness: Open hands, unbuttoned shirt or coat.

Defensiveness: Arms crossed, sideways glance, touching or rubbing the nose, rubbing eyes, drawing away.

Insecurity: Chewing pen or pencil, thumb over thumb, biting fingernail.

Confidence: Hands behind back, hands in steeple position, back stiff, hands in coat pockets with thumb out, hands on lapels of coat.

Nervousness: Clearing throat, smoking, whistling, fidgeting, hand covering mouth, jiggling keys or change, pulling on ears, wringing and sweating hands.

Frustration: Short breaths, tightly clenched hands, wringing hands, tight, fist-like gestures, pointing index finger, rubbing back of neck.

Cooperation: Upper body in ready position, like a sprinter, open hands, sitting on edge of chair in anticipation, hand to face gestures.

Being able to read body language is an extremely useful communication tool. Knowing what a person's state of mind is can be invaluable in any kind of relationship, from business to personal.

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