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I pray to the Almighty that He blesses every girl with such parents - Nabli




Earth is a funny place to live in, especially if you are a girl ready for a wedding in an Indian society. The restless mothers of teen tumbled [I give this term to girls who have just come out of their teens] in the age group of 20-25 grow desperate to get their daughters married off. Nine out of ten mothers want well educated, well off, broad minded and well settled son-in-laws for their daughters. Not only the guy is scrutinized with all these qualities; even his family is taken for a ride. The family has to be a co-operative one with amicable people in it.

What will the guys who don't possess these attributes do? Remain unmarried? Poor guys or should I say, 'poor girls' for putting up with their parent's choice, especially the mother's. This is a crucial stage for girls where they can't opt for anything new, either in studies or jobs. The list of alliances coming their way stops them from taking up new ventures in this term. Any little issue would create a flutter in the household. The girl is not allowed in to interfere in the wedding preparation matters and is forced to keep mum until the whole process is completed. Doesn't this sound weird in the fast cyber world? It does but still this is the situation that does prevail in the society atleast in the Indian society. Only a very few, maybe one in a thousand people are quiet forward or neoteric who would consider and consult their daughters before the process starts.

My best friend was in this web for about one year until the dream son-in-law came in to her mother's world.It took one whole year to finalize a guy for my friend. No one better than me knows the trauma she underwent in these 365 days, 24 hours. Every alliance would be considered as the final one and preparations would be made for the same. If any alliance were cancelled from the opposite side, the blame would directly fall on the girl.

In three years of college I have seen thousands of alliances coming up for my classmates. In one instance one of my friend was rejected 'cause she was too fat, and in another deal [it almost is one] the girl was rejected 'cause she was too thin. The excellent one was when the same friend of mine was once rejected 'cause she was too plump and she was finalized to the same guy without any reasons. [Or the guy's side suddenly had a hint of the vast wealth her dad had kept in store for her].

I used to laugh at these friends of mine for what they were undergoing. I always thought my parents would turn out to be the same typical Indian parents to the maximum limit. To my awe and surprise, everything was different. First thing what my parents need to be praised for is the secrecy they maintained amongst themselves in the search. They never showed the hustle they had in their minds in the search. They felt that the rejections would disturb me in my personal life and would bring down the interest in life. The liberty given to me was extreme, like I could always tell them my choice of a husband upon which they would base their search on. Lucky are children who get parents like these of mine. I pray to the Almighty and the All Knowing that he blesses every girl with such parents.

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