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KEEP GROWING, USING NLP (4)
- M. R. Arulraja, NLP Master Practitioner

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Having narrated the background in which I place NLP through the last three articles, now, we proceed to learn and use NLP.  

NLP proposes three steps to achieve what you want: 

1.      Know what you want to achieve.

2.      Find where you are.

3.      Bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. 

We now proceed straight to the fist step in NLP:  Knowing what you want!

 KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT

Imagine you are starting off on your car/bike to your home, from your office. You are on a familiar road. And, today, you have a companion traveling with you – a friend, or family member. And you start chatting along the way…and the vehicle keeps moving on.  After some time you have reached where wanted to: your home.

Probably, much of your driving was done by your unconscious mind! You were engrossed in a conversation. But the inner mind was busy calculating every move of yours, as well of others on the road. You may not be consciously aware of how many times you stopped on the road for signals, or how many turns you made, or how many vehicles you overtook and so on…

You accessed the enormous power of your unconscious mind to reach you home – by just thinking of your destination and wanting to reach there…. And your unconscious mind took up the task of taking you home, safe!

You not only knew where you wanted to reach, but you knew it in such a way as to access your own inner powers to reach there with ease.

How wonderful it will be if you can reach every destination in life with such ease! If you can model the way drive unconsciously to your home, and use that model to reach other destinations, you can certainly achieve things, with ease and efficiency. Remember, NLP is a science of modeling efficiency!  And we will learn to look at destinations and motivate ourselves today.

Where you want to be in next five or ten years?

You may know where you want to reach in the next few days, or months. But, often, you may not know where you want to reach in the next five or ten years. Hence, there is a risk that you may not be doing today what will be useful to you in the long run. 

Particularly, with a lot of changes constantly blowing in the wind, the danger of one’s skills and services  becoming redundant is very real today than anytime before. Hence, while doing well what one is doing now, one also needs to keep a watchful eye on emerging changes, and keep moving towards a world that is yet to manifest itself.

Similarly, you could think of other areas of life: what will my health be like, in the next few years? Am I my burning myself out with the present task so much that when I have struggled hard and scaled great heights professionally, my health will fail and ruin all my achievements?  What should be my weight in next five years?  How physically fit I would like to be then?

You will also appreciate the need to plan for the development of your relationships! Of what use will it be if you got so absorbed with your mission that you forgot your family? Coming home every day only to retire, you may be missing the active life that should be going on with your spouse and children! Are you striving to have a deeper bond with your growing children? Or, will they be getting estranged as time goes on, with your not paying sufficient attention to them now?

There are areas you would do well to think and plan for, now! The beauty in planning is that you take control of your life – to a great extent! Your energies get canalized, and your resources get used to the maximum. 

In the NLP context, you will be able to access a lot of unutilized resources and energies that have been lying buried in you.

Be focused on the destination, not so much on the steps!   

As much as you can have a pleasant journey forward to your destination, talking to a companion traveling with you in the car/bike, your development can be also pleasant journey ahead. It will be less taxing on you, if you can entrust much of the tasks to the automatic pilot: the unconscious mind!

You only be focused your destination…And deeply want to reach there…And then, relax… The unconscious is good at taking care of routines or what you do repeatedly.

That is, it is more useful to visualize the joy of reaching your destination and move forward than be counting the steps you have to take to reach your destination. If your mind is fixed on the goals, and is able to taste the joy of reaching the goal, now itself, there is a tremendous surge of life and energy that will guide you.

Take this example: If a mother thinks of every bit of work she has to do before dashing off to office, item by item, even before she would get out of her bed, she might feel depressed! There are any number of things to be done. Washing, cooking, getting children ready to school etc.  

But if she should see a cinema of her children eating a good breakfast, and happily going to school, and growing to become adults very soon, she may feel enthused to get up and start work, and suddenly realize the work got over in no time! 

She was immersed in the cinema of children eating and growing, which is what she is aiming to achieve: The destination of all her efforts. By focusing on the destination, she can release a lot of energy. And her routine work, like driving, can be easily done by the unconscious mind. 

Some mothers are very efficient: They can finish their work in no time; and besides, feel a lot of energy too, after doing the work! There are others who feel overwhelmed by the same tasks and feel exhausted. 

The difference between the two, probably, is this: one is focused on the tasks; the other on the destination.

Exercise

Keep constantly checking the unconscious visuals that your brain runs in your head, day in and day out… Just relax… How do you see your work in the office? A heap of files and papers to be cleared? That way, you may make yourself tired, easily.

Now, make a decision to take control of the cinema. Instead of allowing the brain to show what it wants, you make your choice: Imagine NOW ITSELF the joy that will come after you completed all the tasks, and see yourself happily getting out of the office with a sense of accomplishment by evening. Be focused on that thought. Tell yourself, how nice it will be to go home after finishing all the work…That will help you go through the files/tasks with ease, and with efficiency, too.

copyright © M.R.Arulraja 2005

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